As I mentioned, something women can do is to try to make friends with it. We don’t usually take that context with our vulvas. So start by saying hi and having a look. You can do this exercise however way you want to – it doesn’t have to be a big deal. It can be a quick, 5 second peek or you can make it a whole occasion where you light candles, play music and really take your time. There’s no right way to do this exercise, it’s whatever you make it to be. The important part is to observe and pay attention to your thoughts and feelings, without judgment. I often encourage women to do this exercise regularly because it’s a great way to check in with your vulva and figure out its needs and wants.
Aside from this, general knowledge about vulvas and sexuality is always helpful in our sexual wellness journey; so a great book that I always suggest is “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski.
5 April 2019